The Fallacy of Labels

I'm a human being who is....

• a German by ancestry.

• an American by passport.

• an Atheist because of logic and reasoning skills.

• a Liberal based on the actual definition, not what Conservatives make it out to be.

• a part of a Community and always tries to add value.

• a Mother to two wonderful boys because I had the choice and fully accept my responsibility to be one.

• a Daughter because I had no choice in the matter, but glad I'm here.

• a Sister having had no choice in this either, but wouldn't want it any other way.

• a Wife due to my best friend also being someone I want to share everything with.

• a Friend to those who know how to be one.

• a Colleague in the work world who knows how to give 100%.

• an Adult because of my chronological age and how I act out in the world.

• a Sexual Being, but whose Sexual Preference is her business and irrelevant to the conversation.

My labels and my definitions work for me and me alone. The next human being you meet who tells you their label, remember that their description will be different. And please don't judge them by their labels, but be aware of their intentions and their actions. That will tell you who they really are.

Being human is what we all have in common and my hope is that, one day, all human beings will value that feature first and foremost. When we do, acceptance comes naturally and when we have that, everyone's definition of themselves will have a likelihood of being a positive one that, in turn, will impact the rest of us in a good way.

Freethinkers Want to Know

"piet" asked me for a favor. Below is the link to his post. Believers - Would you kindly oblige 'piet' with a request he has made on his blog? He asks many reasonable questions that many skeptics, like myself, have also asked themselves. These are the kind of questions that led me to where I am today - preferring rational thinking for myself rather than blindly following some stories that make absolutely no sense, are contradictory and have just been passed down from one generation after the other playing out like the world's longest version of the "Whispering Game".

Here's my question - How can you NOT ask questions?

97 Questions for the Believer

I Love You, Babe

If destiny is a reality then I think you are truly the one I was destined to love. The one who was meant to fill that spot in my heart that no one else could. You knew that when we met... you felt that in your veins right from the beginning, didn't you?

Your kisses were clumsy at first. You were shy and afraid. Who is this girl who has made you feel something again? I bet that's what was going through your head when you decided to give in to your heart's feelings. I'm so glad that nothing stopped you from hesitating. Not the fact that we lived so far apart or that your wounds were still fresh from your recent break-up or that I came with a ready-made family. All you knew was that you wanted to be with me.

Do you realize how special you made me feel? Do you know how very important you became to me when you lifted me up from my own misery and let me begin to heal with your protection and love? My being went deeper and deeper in love with you as my own hurts and past fell away. You always accepted me and because of that, I got stronger and the pride you felt grew bigger as the whole person of me emerged in the protection of your love.

As you stand by my side now, enveloping me with your love, I feel deeper and richer feelings for you, as we both change and grow with each other as well as in the different facets of our independent lives. I'm proud to be your wife, now and forever, standing together at the head of our little family. I feel a great sense of accomplishment and joy showing our boys how it should be done. My dearest love, my life with you has been an incredible journey, a blessing and also, trials to keep us on our toes. We've come through the good times and the bad times better than I'd ever hoped for.

Loving you has been a delicious adventure and one I could never have imagined having, let along taking, but I did and I'm the richer for it. I'm truly indebted to you in so many ways. You are my protector, my friend, comforter, companion in laughter, the eyes to my soul, my conscience and my strength when I need it. A day doesn't go by without one or one million thoughts about you and how gracefully you have complemented my life. The goodness of you is imprinted on my soul and something I could and never would erase.

I love you... dear husband, friend, confidante... deeply, completely and always.